Parameters vs. Boundaries

May 4, 2017

If you’re reading this, you are aware of etheric boundaries. Many spiritual traditions talk about them and how to set them up so that you don’t take on the energy of others and energy that is harmful to you. You know… the outward facing mirrors or surrounding yourself with a bubble that is impenetrable.


I was shown a good while back that there was another way to handle all that and it was time for me to shift out of the technique I was using. The way shown to me was to really turn up my inner Light and shine it out. I was shown that energy not of that vibration would either go another direction, not notice my energy, would try to attach but would not be able to, or it would just pass through with no negative impact to me.

It was really scary to think of doing that! In fact, it was so scary that I decided to “test” it multiple ways before going “full monty”. I tried at home first. When people would come over, I’d switch methods. I finally got the courage to go to the grocery store “just” shining my Light. It was a bit dicey at first but Source kept encouraging me and I finally became comfortable with it.

It is a way to define what you want without any separation or duality. No “me vs. them” or “this accepted but not that” kind of energy. However, if you are like most people, you wonder if you can sustain the level of vibration of that 24/7 especially with all the things that come your way in a day. That’s legitimate. I will say, though, that as you hold a higher vibration more and more and more, you attract less and less and less of any vibration other than the higher vibrations.

All that said, there may be a time of adjustment from one method to another. It doesn’t always work at first. So, I have an interim step for you. It’s about parameters.

We tend to think of boundaries like a wall. We put the wall up and say “you can’t come in unless I say so”. It is like a physical expression of keeping you separate from something else. That’s the energy of how we typically think of it.

But, what about parameters. With parameters, you are saying “this is how I choose to experience”. The energy of that is positive and not negative. You’re not saying some energy cannot come into your experience. You’re saying “I am choosing to experience in this way. Period.” Splitting hairs? Maybe or maybe not. The energy is certainly different and since we are vibrational BEings, energy matters. Like attracts like. Positive energy attracts positive energy. So, if we think of choosing to experience positive energy – period – we are in effect telling the Universe to not bother us with any negative energy, but in not so many words and certainly not with that energy. It’s a win win. (Remember how your Mom would tell you one thing, but you and everyone else in the world knew she meant something else? It was just her way of nicely telling you to do what she wanted. It’s kind of like that.)

I do believe that shining your Light from within so brightly that negative energy is a non-issue for you is the way to go for a lot of reasons – not all discussed here. But, if you desire an interim step from bubbles and mirrors, perhaps establishing your parameters (the positive conditions you choose for your experiences) is the next step.

Try it out. There is nothing wrong or unseemly about wanting to ease into new things. If someone else thinks so, that’s on them. If you think so, change your beliefs about that first. Then use parameters until you feel comfortable taking an even bigger step. It’s about you and no one else. Whatever works that is based in love. Enjoy a lovely gift from Spirit!

From my heart to yours, from my soul to yours… Mahalo…Linda

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Energetic Protection Using Theta Healing and Visualization

March 16, 2010

There have been many techniques and suggestions presented about how best to protect your energy.  We all know how it feels when an energy that is not in sync with ours enters our space.  For many people, entering areas where there are a variety of energy signatures – for instance a grocery store – is very difficult.

I would like to add my suggestion.  This was a long standing issue for me but, with this particular practice and using the belief work of Theta Healing, it has improved dramatically.

First, consider downloading some beliefs and feelings such as:

  • I am impervious to negative energies.
  • I know what it feels like to be impervious to negative energies.
  • I am impervious to the adverse effects of energies not in sync with my own.
  • I know what it feels like to be impervious to the adverse effects of energies not in sync with my own.
  • My vibration is capable of raising the vibration of others with grace and ease.
  • I know what it feels like to be capable of raising the vibration of others with grace and ease.
  • I am willing to accept my ability to raise the vibration of others.
  • I am willing to accept my ability to protect my energetic signature.
  • I am willing to accept others for who and what they are in any given moment.

There are, of course, others that may be needed specifically for you.  However, if you would like to start with these and have them flow to you from the Divine spirit of all, say “yes” now.  Please do check for others that you, in particular, may need.  If you are not a Theta Healer, there are many around. You can easily connect by going to Theta Healing Connect.

Energetic Signature of a Dandelion

Now, to the protection visualization.  Center yourself in whatever way is most comfortable for you.  Take several deep breaths and allow your consciousness to go deep within the earth.  Feel the groundedness of being connected to the earth.  Feel that connectedness rise up and enter your body through your feet rising up to your heart.  Ask the Divine to send a beautiful white energy of protection to you.  See it enter the crown chakra and flow throughout every cell of your body, anchoring in the heart.  Feel that protective light energy expand within every cell.  See the light from each cell grow until all the protective light merges, surrounding you in a beautiful haze of bright protective light.  Expand this light out from your body to whatever distance feels comfortable.  Decide what you want that energy to project about you.  Perhaps you would like that energy to project love, peace, joy, and power laced with gentleness.  Feel those qualities infuse the light until there is no distinction between them.  Know that you are protected by this Divine light and by your own power and intent.  Give gratitude for this gift.

There are those who would prefer shielding of the energetic core.  However, that feels limiting to me.  That is exclusion instead of inclusion.  When you expand the light outward with the intent of protection, you are providing the space to be able to raise the vibration of others.  Science has proven that energy will vibrate to the highest rhythm (my unscientific way to present a scientific concept).  Therefore, if you are living your life with integrity and authenticity, your energetic vibration has the potential to help others just by your presence.  When you add intent to that mix, you have a winner in my thinking.

So, see if this resonates with you.  You may feel that you need shielding and layers.  But, maybe you don’t.  I would also suggest that you try this out in situations where you already feel comfortable and gradually expand.  I wouldn’t suggest going to the mall to try this the first time.  It may work for you but, you may need to feel comfortable with it first.  At first it may help to visualize the expanded light throughout the day or when you go out.  But, eventually, you will just trust it is there doing what you intended it to do and you will find such freedom and a wonderful sense of joy that you can help others just by being you.

In light and love,

Theta Healing Connect

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